Accept children with reverence, educate them with love, send them forth in freedom. – Rudolf Steiner
A real experience
A mom was at a parent teacher conference for her child in a school. Before giving the overview about what other teachers have written in the report, the class teacher asked the mom, “Is there anything special you want to discuss”? The mom said, “what is your overall opinion about my child”? Teacher said without any delay, “to speak the truth, I wish my children would be like your child”. No need to say that mom was astonished but very happy. The child was good in studies, moreover it was the attitude, the child was showing towards teachers and class fellows. The manners and good behaviour of child is as important as getting good grades.
Parents want their children to do well in life, but this cannot be achieved in a fortnight. Remember parenting is a challenge, accept it and enjoy it. Moreover, every child is different and hence there is no single or standard way of good parenting. Parenting is not something which you learn from books, it is every day experience. You learn from mistakes. Simplest thing is to take care of some of the basic do’s and don’ts.
- Spend time in reading, chatting and discussing different matters with your child. Help them in understanding what they enjoy.
- It is good to have family traditions. Adding a tradition here or there can be very useful in later years. Like reading time or baking time or even walking time on weekends.
- Try to make sharing a habbit. Such as, when guest bring chocolates, ask your child to share it. This is a simple way to teach that sharing is caring and moreover, in this way your child will consume less sugar than otherwise would have.
- Motivate your child, it is important.
- Make home a better place for your child. Your child should not be counted among those who do not have this luxury.
- Take care of emotional needs of your child along with food, shelter and clothes.
- Keep in mind, respect is something which is to be earned and not begged. Give and take respect, make it a habbit.
- Talk negative about others, especially about your spouse, your parents and your in-laws. Let the child have his/her opinion about them.
- Try to teach anything. A better way is to get him/her involve in a small project, like chocolate sharing project.
- Judge your child.
- Think that you always know what’s best for your child.
Be positive in life and please “live and let live”.